Standing: what is it?

"STANDING" - Choosing to live by God's Word in spite of seemingly insurmountable circumstances. Choosing to believe God for healing and restoration instead of bowing to the world's 'solution' (divorce). Praying for the salvation of one's spouse and for God's spirit of forgiveness to imbue one's life.

"STANDER" - One who has chosen to STAND for marriage in spite of a mate who has chosen to depart...standing on the truth of the Word of God which says God created marriage as a till-death-relationship.

When you choose to stand for a marriage that is obviously failing or even dead, you must willingly give up all your 'rights' to criticize, condemn, complain about or to your spouse. You must let go ALL ASPECTS of the marriage into God's hands, acknowledging that without Him, there can be no restoration. You must first allow God to come into your heart and cleanse you of all the anger, rage, bitterness towards your mate so that you can intercede on his/her behalf.

Standing requires courage and conviction to hold your head high when your family, friends, acquaintances, and especially your spouse tell you to give up and move on with your life. You must let God lead your every step. Choose to believe His Word rather than the world.

A STANDER'S AFFIRMATION

I AM STANDING FOR THE HEALING OF MY MARRIAGE!... I will not give up, give in, give out or give over 'til that healing takes place. I made a vow, I said the words, I gave the pledge, I gave a ring, I took a ring, I gave myself, I trusted GOD, and said the words, and meant the words... in sickness and in health, in sorrow and in joy, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in good times and in bad...so I am standing NOW, and will not sit down, let down, slow down, calm down, fall down, look down or be down 'til the breakdown is torn down!

I refuse to put my eyes on outward circumstances, or listen to prophets of doom, or buy into what is trendy, worldly, popular, convenient, easy, quick, thrifty, or advantageous... nor will I settle for a cheap imitation of God's real thing, nor will I seek to lower God's standard, twist God's will, rewrite God's word, violate God's covenant, or accept what God hates, namely divorce!

In a world of filth, I will stay pure; surrounded by lies I will speak the truth; where hopelessness abounds, I will hope in God: where revenge is easier, I will bless instead of curse; and where the odds are stacked against me, I will trust in God's faithfulness.

I am a STANDER, and I will not acquiesce, compromise, quarrel or quit.. I have made the choice, set my face, entered the race, believed the Word, and trusted God for all the outcome.

I will allow neither the reaction of my spouse, nor the urging of my friends, nor the advice of my loved ones, nor economic hardship, nor the prompting of the devil to make me let up, slow up, blow up, or give up 'til my marriage is healed.

- Author Unknown